Who we are is a construct made out of schemas. Think of them as 'templates' created out of tradition and social context: 'Father', 'mother', 'husband', 'wife', 'sibling', 'son', 'daughter', 'professional,' 'artist', 'teacher', 'banker', 'barman', 'actor' ... the list goes on.
The fact is that we use a multitude of these schemas depending on the context of the situation we are in. To use a very imprecise but nonetheless useful analogy, they become the particular software we load into the OS of the self that is run by the hardware of the body and brain. An interesting supposition develops from this: Do we accept the off-the-shelf code that already exists and which others have created for us or do we write our own? Do we learn how to hack so we can customise who we are?
The narrative of self is ever evolving.
The answer we give to these questions will determine exactly what we become and, most importantly, who we become and how we act when we are under pressure.
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